During a BDSM scene, participants can experience altered states of consciousness, often referred to as "subspace" (for a submissive/bottom) or "topspace" (for a dominant/top). Understanding these states, and their after-effects, is crucial for safe play.
What is Subspace?
Subspace is a mental state that a bottom or submissive can enter during a scene. It's often described as a "floaty," "high," or trance-like feeling. This state is typically brought on by a combination of endorphins, adrenaline, and deep psychological engagement with the activity. While in subspace, a person may have a higher pain tolerance and feel disconnected from their surroundings. This is often a desired and positive state, but it also makes the person highly vulnerable.
What is "Drop"?
"Drop" is the emotional and physical crash that can happen after the high of a scene wears off. The body's endorphins and adrenaline recede, which can lead to sudden and sometimes overwhelming feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, or irritability. This is a normal physiological response.
- When it happens: Drop can occur immediately after a scene, or it may be delayed, sometimes appearing hours or even a day later.
- Who it affects: Both submissives and dominants can experience drop. A submissive may feel low after the "high" of subspace, while a dominant may feel guilt or a sudden sense of anti-climax.
- How to manage it: This is the primary reason aftercare (see Article 4) is so important. Good aftercare helps to cushion this emotional "landing" and provides the reassurance needed to process the experience positively.